2014 was a rollercoaster year in more ways than one. At the risk of sounding like a cliché, everything seemed to go out of place, and my year lost structure. Not only because of this costly experiment, but I have allowed myself to be--in our native language, pabaya. Probably because I was on the point of being drained--physically, emotionally, and mentally drained. At the risk of sounding melodramatic, I will leave it at that.
I also let myself turn into a little brat. Okay, given my body build, big brat. End result, I was someone nobody would want to be with, I wouldn't even want to be with myself, period.
1. You have to stop thinking that other peoples' problems are much more minor than yours, and that you should stop (or lessen the whining). A friend told me once that I should learn to count my blessings more (than whining); and that I should only talk to her when I've learned doing it. And yes, there are people who have it so much worse.
2. Your brain can handle only so much information at a time. Write it down so you won't forget it. My boss scolds me on occasion about it whenever I (narrowly) miss a deadline. And so, come Monday, I shall go to work with three memory aiding tools--to-do list pads, a task focus list, and of course, my planner.
3. Listen. Enough said. End result: less misunderstandings, less arguments, and less confrontations.
4. Learn to appreciate other people, things, and circumstances better. It never does to take anything for granted. It's true when people say that you never know what you have 'till it's gone.
5. Take care of your health. You can never have it back once you've lost it. And yes, I have to make that doctor's appointment. And to sign up for a gym membership. Any one of you knows where is the nearest yoga place to Commonwealth Avenue in Quezon City?
6. Count your pennies, save them, use them wisely. Before, I was very conscientious regarding my finances. I made it a point to deposit a certain amount to my personal bank account. For some reason, I went pretty much haywire where it is concerned--I was Miss Spend, Spend, Spend. But now, I shall make it a point to carefully budget my money.
7. See no evil, hear no evil, speak no evil. At the risk of spreading intrigue (haha), I shall have to be careful with what I say to people. Less talk, less mistake, some people say. And it is true. Although I have never contributed, it's also not good to allow myself to hear it.
8. Don't abandon your passions, make time for them too. Since I've started law school, I have abandoned everything where my creativity was concerned; even my writing has now been confined to pretty much technical stuff (affidavits, legal memoranda, anyone?). But I when I took time off from law school, I made time to write, and draw (some of the images in the blog are drawn by yours truly). It made me realize that I've missed them so much. I promise myself that even with my impending (ahem) return to law school, I should still make time to do other things that I also love. The law is also my passion, but I shouldn't lose myself in it (too much).
9. You are not a machine. Learn to take time off, and explore your own country. In connection to this, I shall follow and implement #6 more in order to go on my dream out of town trips. Vigan, and Naga, here I come! More inspiration to write, and hopefully, draw. Yay!
10. Be careful who to trust, when to trust, and be the person people trust. Trust is a fragile thing. There are all sorts of people who can treat you well to your face and stab you at the back. Or those who take advantage of your kindness. In the same vein, I will implement and remember #7, and be wary of people.
11. Love with all your heart, but still leave some love for yourself. Also, take care of the people you love. I wish I learned this five years ago. I would have been able to learn when to keep on fighting, and when to cut it clean. As for taking care of the people you love, it happened early this year when my dad had a stroke. Looking back, I wonder how our family got through it, if it weren't for God's grace. Thank you for all your prayers, my dad's recovery is continuous. :)
12. People may love and leave you, but the Lord never will. I won't delve in the exact details, but I learned this at one stage during the year. It was such a comfort, and starting this year, I shall sleep and wake early, and spend my early hours in prayer.
13. Don't be afraid to cut ties with people who drain you and put you down. This happened to me twice. One "friend" let me down--I don't want to delve on the details. The other one had so much hate in her, she could be bile inside a tilapia fish. One of them unfriended me in the most popular social media site. The other friend? I'd rather not to talk about it, because I have to apply Lesson #1.
14. Whatever happens, never stop believing that people are good at heart. If Anne Frank, who died in a German concentration camp, among millions of other Jews, the subject of so much persecution, and still she believes in the goodness of people, why can't we? A few days ago, while having lunch with my parents and two officemates, a young man offered his seat to my dad, who had to stop for a while to rest. We were so touched by the random person's kindness, and that is proof that there are still good people in this world.
Hope you all had a great new year! :)